"Ayan. Sit down with a skull." A child in the yard plays next to the sand dune, and Commander Lu asked his son-in-law to sit together.

Following the orders of his father-in-law, Jiang Yan sat down.

"I asked Nannan and you to move to the opposite side of my house first. I admit that it was her brother and I who were selfish." The palm of my palm slapped his thigh, and Commander Lu hesitated, "I hope it won't cause trouble between you and Nannan."

"Father-in-law, what are you saying?" Ying frowned and lowered her head, looking at the long and oblique shadow of Yu Yang.

To put it bluntly, he and his wife had nothing to do with him, but it would be impossible to say that they didn't mind at all. For example, his second sister Jiang Mei complained about this, thinking that the Lu family had interfered in their family affairs and did not believe them at all.

Marrying such a wife with family background is not stressful, and it is a self-deception. But since, when his wife married him, he did not complain about his mother making things difficult for him, and overcame her, and having a wife as an example, as a husband, can he complain about whether he has any of these things.

Every family has its own difficulty in chanting.

This marriage between him and his wife is a typical example.

Before, my wife and the Wen family were said to be ineffective. Now, my wife followed the Lu family and was said to be meddling in other people's affairs and bullying others. In short, I can never be satisfied with my words.

The main thing is that you must adjust your mentality.

"Ayan, your mother-in-law and I have discussed you several times in private. Your mother-in-law likes you very much and says you like her very much, and it is more pleasing than her own son's godson." Commander Lu said as his wife praised her son-in-law. In fact, this son-in-law is both a pleasing person in his heart.

"Father-in-law, I'm very happy to be liked by my mother-in-law." Jiang Yan raised his head and said.

Mrs. Lu is a good mother-in-law, so there is no choice.

"But, Ayan, as Nannan's father, I have a few words to say to you." Commander Lu said, and he turned his words around asking his son-in-law to come out to talk to him, and his tone was very serious.

Jiang Yan listened with his ears, put his palms in his pockets and clenched them in his skin.

"For example, you are sick this time. I know that everyone has something to do when you are sick, and there is nothing to say about it. But according to your superior later, you volunteered to help people take the shift and then the cold incident happened that night."

"father in law--"

With a big hand, he put his hands in front of Jiang Yan, two majestic and stressful eyes stopped Jiang Yan from speaking.

"I am Nannan's father, you are Nannan's husband, and I entrust my daughter to protect her for the rest of her life. If you want to achieve success, you want to help others, I can understand. However, the premise is-" Commander Lu paused, "It's not just for you, but also for me to teach my two sons to speak. If you think you have been in the army and become a soldier, your obligation is to sacrifice! That's wrong, it's a big mistake!"

If the old leader doesn’t speak, he will be harsh and terrifying.

His father-in-law, who is known as the most powerful person in the army, has not been in contact with him before and does not understand him very much. Today, his father-in-law finally tasted the taste.

Compared with his father, Jiang Father, Commander Lu is very strict in the times and cannot be compared with ordinary generals.

"Soldiers, don't, you can't always think about using sacrifice to exchange for everything. That's wrong. Because in this era, sacrifice cannot be exchanged for everything. The enemy is very cunning, and using it is the brain. Soldiers should consider how to win a comprehensive victory. This requires you to always remember to think with your brain and measure your ability. A unit, if you cultivate a cadre with thought and ability, is the purpose of reducing sacrifices, not for himself, do you understand?"

Jiang Yan wanted to stand up and realize his ambitions.

Commander Lu slapped his shoulder twice again: "Sit, I'll let you sit. Today we are two of us, one is Nannan's father, and the other is Nannan's husband. Dialogue is equal, discussion is equal, and discussion is equal. If you have any objections, you can keep it."

"Father-in-law." As the words of Commander Lu made the soldiers' blood boil in his blood boil, and his eyebrows raised, "I understand that my father-in-law meant that I could protect myself if I was not capable enough. I admit that I forced myself to obtain data that night. However, soldiers should be responsible for completing the task."

"Your idea is very similar to Nannan."

I was stunned: Why did I mention that I am not a soldier’s wife?

"Nannan is the same as you, her idea is straightforward, right or wrong." Commander Lu looked at the fallen Yu Yang with thick eyebrows, very deep, and his words were long, "Do you think that if you sacrifice, Nannan should raise your children for you and stay widowed for the rest of your life?"

He really never thought about this question, perhaps, he never avoided it and did not dare to think about it. Although he knew that this should be a problem that all soldiers should think of when they get married.

"What? Can't I answer?" Commander Lu came home these two days and could see his daughter restless sleep all day long, looking at the wall blocking her and her husband. As a father, his heart was not sour. "If you can't answer, I will answer for Nannan. Nannan thought that being a military wife is like this. She would have to marry you."

He lowered his eyebrows and felt a heavy silence. He knew exactly what his wife was, otherwise he would not have fallen in love with her.

"But--" Commander Lu looked at him, his eyebrows and eyes were not only a father, but a man as a soldier. "If all women who marry a soldier must sacrifice freely, do you think this is fair to them? Why do they only think about their husbands' righteousness every day, and they must sacrifice everything? Is this a modern soldier supposed to have an idea? As a modern soldier, what should we protect?"

"Father-in-law, what do you think?" asked, pursuing and eager to ask.

"I—" patted my chest, Commander Lu's eyes were full of eyebrows and powerful eyes, without any hesitation, "The national interests require me to sacrifice, and there will be no hesitation. This is a military oath. But what is it that I must sacrifice national interests?" His hand pointed at his mind again, "I must think about it carefully here, because I have my wife and my children need me to take care of."

"think?"

"Yes, helping others is not a problem, completing tasks is not a problem. The problem is that you must be skilled. If you can't do things alone, don't think that you can do it. It is not shameful to ask for help from others." Commander Lu said this, and looked at him with a more serious look at him, "If you only think about the word sacrifice, you will only show this time. I will question whether you love my daughter or not, and whether you love my daughter to think of her future results. If you just want to satisfy your needs, even if you die first, that is a selfish expression. Do you understand?"

He had never thought about these questions.

If you love someone, you have to think of the result...

It’s not just about giving love to the other person, or simply about getting married and having children, it’s about love.

What is selfless love and what is selfish love?

What does it need to be for a marriage?

"I know these problems are complicated for you, a young couple who have just gotten married, but since there is a problem, I, as a father, must have an obligation to remind you." Commander Lu said, "Not only to you, but also to Nannan, I also want to talk about her. After all, your mother-in-law and I hope you will be a couple who will be harmonious and peaceful. Even if one day your mother-in-law and I leave first, you can work together to live your future life well. Marriage is simple, and difficult."

"Dad." This close and respectful voice was filled with gratitude.

Commander Lu smiled: "I'll take a simple question for you. Some people say that after marriage, the relationship between the couple will deteriorate, and some people say that love cannot last, so marriage is the grave of love. Don't you often say that you get married first and fall in love? You young people are popular words. However, even if you get married like this, you will still be indifferent one day. What do you think about this?"

Yingmei thrust, and she had an answer in her heart: "Dad, Manman and I got married not long after we met. We had a flash marriage and had a deep relationship, which means that people often say that love at first sight cannot be discussed. However, my idea is definitely absolute. Without love and marriage, it is not marriage. Without love and marriage, I will not get married. As for the various family hardships, Manman and I have experienced it, but there is no less experience than others. I have never thought about the indifferent relationship between husband and wife."

"I never thought about it." Commander Lu laughed at the answer to the son-in-law and covered his mouth with his fist.

Jiang Yan is not afraid of others laughing at him. Even if his father-in-law laughs at him, he is honest and sunny and expresses his opinions directly: "Dad's words today also gave me a lot of inspiration. I want to give my wife a love result and a hopeful result, not a utopian. I will definitely be more cautious in doing things in the future, so please rest assured by both dad and mom."

With this promise from a son-in-law, I will not ruin myself after saying so much today and spending so much talk. I said I was dry. Commander Lu said with satisfaction: "Go back, maybe your mother-in-law has already cooked the food, so she is looking for us everywhere."

When the two of them turned back, the little storm happened at home just passed. Mrs. Lu went back to the kitchen to cook, and Lu Huan helped her mother in the kitchen. The only sign that could be seen was that both of them were sitting in Manman's room.

Commander Lu and his son-in-law walked in and saw the medicine box on the table. They asked anxiously: "What's wrong?"

Mr. Yao woke up from the sudden silence, stood up quickly, closed the lid of the medicine box, handed it to his younger brother to carry it back, and said, "Nothing. She was sensitive to the medicine just now, so she found some anti-allergic drugs."

"What's the matter now?" Commander Lu asked again, saying nothing to Xiang's eldest son.

Jun Ye stood up and did not face his father, but said, "Go back and let her sleep for a while."

Jiang Yan listened to them, wiped the group, walked to the head of the bed, bent down, and touched his wife's forehead and face. It looked fine.

After being disturbed by Manman, he swayed his head slightly on the pillow, and Yue'er's eyebrows were tight.

I guess he didn't like to be disturbed when he was asleep. Commander Lu was relieved and walked out with his son. When he went out, he called Lai's son-in-law by the bedside: "A Yan, let's finish the meal first."

After all, it was a teaching team who stayed there. After learning first aid, he was touching his wife's pulse. It seemed that he felt something more than when he left. Jiang Yan suddenly had a question in his heart.

My fingers accidentally exerted a little more force, and then I accidentally pinched my wife to wake her up.

Manman tilted her head, opened the gap of her eyes, and identified the vague shadow in front of her: "Mom?"

"I woke you up." Jiang Yan felt extremely guilty. Seeing several unpleasant eyes shot towards him, they were all from his wife's family.

"Ayan, are you okay?" As soon as I heard my husband's voice, I immediately got up from the bed.

Commander Lu turned around and shook his head: If a woman is big or not, a woman is big or not.

"Dad, what did you just say to him?" Jun Ye asked cautiously after following his father's footsteps.

"I have told him everything I should talk to, so you don't have to talk to your sister-in-law anymore." Commander Lu told his eldest son that he was in a hurry to talk to his son-in-law, in order to avoid conflicts between his son and his son-in-law. His son's conversation was not as artistic as he was.

"It's good that he can listen to Dad's words." Jun Ye changed his tone and didn't see any expectations for this matter.

"You—" turned around and pointed at his son's nose. Seeing the two brothers in the Yao family, he took them back and coughed, "Like your uncle and your grandfather teach you, you should win him over and bring him into our big family. After all, he is the choice of Nannan."

When talking about my sister, Bingyan looked unhappy, especially when she saw her sister's expression of kissing her son-in-law.

"Don't say that to Nannan." It seems that she can see through her son's thoughts. Commander Lu reminded her son, "It is a good thing for them to fall in love with each other. But you, you and Bai Lu, you really don't know what's going on."

"After getting married, no matter how much you love, you must not forget that your bloodline is connected to your relatives." Jun Ye has his own principles, and the Lu family has taught them since childhood.

Commander Lu couldn't refute this, so he had to imitate his youngest son to scratch his head and let it go: Young people have their own emotional affairs, so let's do it yourself.

...

My daughter and son-in-law are getting better, and the day of this family banquet is approaching.

On that day, the garment shop sent a dress.

Mrs. Lu asked her daughter and son-in-law to change her clothes.

Last time, I showed Mrs. Yao two sets of cheongsams, but Manman finally chose the white set himself because it felt like a mother's dress.

She and her husband got married urgently, and they didn't even have a wedding photo.

Cooperating with his wife, Jiang Yan chose a garment shop to send a white dress suit.

When the couple changed their clothes, Mrs. Yao came to visit her and said that her two sons had sent her clothes together and were trying.

"I'm not worried about Ziye, Baoer, I'm worried about him having many opinions." Mrs. Yao was worried about being a master of clothes for her youngest son.

"Baoer's clothes rack is like his brother, so there is no problem with wearing clothes." Mrs. Lu relieved her, "Acne will naturally disappear after puberty."

"This year, Baoer's face is much better than last year, but mainly because girls in school are here, and they like to make fun of people." Mrs. Yao was quite helpless. Her youngest son also reached puberty and would like girls. If she was disliked by the girls she liked, wouldn't she be seriously hit.

"Don't think about it. I think Baoer has a good mentality. Besides, he is like his brother, so it's difficult for him to fall in love with a girl." Mrs. Lu smiled.

This is the truth. Although Yao Zibaochang is not as handsome as his brother, nor as handsome as a child, he is also arrogant. There is no girl in his eyes that can make him see.

However, Lu Huan knew that the girl who was slapped by Wen Yuan was not counted.

When the two mothers talked about this, Lu Huan was worried about how to help his brother Manman find out about the girl's information.

Manman didn't change her clothes, so she first helped her husband with a tie.

Wearing a tie is a skill job. In the past, before, before becoming a wife, I couldn’t think of such things as wearing a tie, because my father Wen Shixuan had never worn a dress or a tie.
To be continued...