Wait until Xiaoshi carefully wrote the answer to the first question on paper.

Ning Youguang then asked a few more questions-

“Second, what negative emotions have accumulated in my heart—hatred, trauma, anger, regret, or something else?

Third, who are people I can never forgive?

Fourth, I want to forgive these people, I want to forgive myself, what do I need to do?”

After Xiao Shi answered it carefully one by one, new questions arose.

"Teacher Ning, I don't think I know myself very well. I don't know what all my dark side is."

Ning Youguang said, "It doesn't matter. You can only write a few of them. If you really can't write them out, you can ask your family, friends and classmates after you go back, and learn to use their power to see yourself clearly."

"I'm sorry." Xiao Shi intuition wanted to escape.

This time, she mustered up the courage to come to Teacher Ning for psychological counseling. It was a decision she made after considering for a long time. Faced with people closer to her, she really couldn't ask these questions.

"Accepting and tolerance of the true self is to help yourself get out of the pain of life, so that you no longer have to deceive yourself or the whole world." Ning Youguang said, "If you don't even have the courage to face your dark side, how do you talk about acceptance?"

Then, she continued to ask Xiaoshi, "How many times do you want to hurt and twist yourself to cater to others and be an excellent person, dare not face yourself, and live a hypocritical life you choose?

You rationalize your behavior as ‘excellent’ so you choose to hide and deceive?

Is a person who even distorts and hurts himself an excellent person?

Do your parents hope their lives will continue like this to you?

How many times have you been justified and willing to swallow your anger humbly?

How many talents do you dare not display, but are afraid that your glory will shine on others' darkness?

How many friends do you have who can help you see you and support you in your life?

Or do they just need you to live hypocritically in their world to satisfy their vanity?

How much willful and domineering do you have to build yourself is right, you are the best, you are better than others, you are attacking, controlling, and accuse others?

You strengthen your weakness through other people's tolerance, other people's love and unbearance for you.

Do you really love your parents and yourself?

There is no one outside but yourself. Do you understand that all your attacks are attacking yourself?

You choose to deceive, escape from growth, and sacrifice your own and your family's happiness. Do you know that this is what you want?"

"I don't need it, I don't need it." Xiao Shi shook her head wildly and shouted loudly, "I need to accept myself, like myself, like my parents, my home... I need to live as transparent as possible, without any concealment, without any disguise, and I want to live openly."

Ning Youguang continued to help Xiaoshi clean up, "Transparency means reality, reality means opening up your heart, returning to the essence, and returning to the complete, original self, you don't need to disguise, so let all these restrictive beliefs that prevent you from leading to happiness, multiply by more than God knows, destroy and never create again!"

She said this passage so powerfully that Xiao Shi felt like she was electrocuted and trembled.

After trembling, she seemed to have drained her strength and leaned against the chair and could no longer speak.

Ning Youguang observed her quietly until he heard the clear and steady breathing sound, and then he gently walked into the cabinet and took out a scarf and covered Xiao Shi's body.

It was half an hour later when Xiaoshi woke up again.

"Teacher Ning." Her voice was hoarse, and she stared blankly at Ning Youguang who had been quietly with her, "Am I asleep?"

Ning Youguang smiled gently, "Yes, how do you feel?"

Xiao Shi sat up straight slowly, and grabbed the Hermes cashmere scarf covering her, "I feel very warm all over."

Then, she tried to take a deep breath and was surprised to find-

"My chest is not that blocked. In the past, I always felt that I couldn't breathe properly. My heart was like a stone pressing on me. Now I feel like I'm missing this stone."

"That's good." Ning Youguang smiled.

"Thank you, Teacher Ning." Xiao Shi said aloud.

"You're welcome." Ning Youguang said, "Today is still the beginning. When you go back, I will hypnotize and implant your subconscious beliefs and will continue to help you clear up your inner trauma. These days, you need to observe your changes."

Although Xiaoshi didn't know how much changes she had changed after today, she knew that the more she asked Teacher Ning for help, the more she could gain.

So she asked again, "Teacher Ning, do you need me to do anything else?"

Ning Youguang smiled and handed her a few more pieces of paper, "Please list the names of the people you need to forgive as a list and write a text message to everyone. If the list is very long, you can write a few more. Write them next time, and you don't have to send these letters."

Because time was limited, she asked Xiaoshi to go back to do this.

Then, she handed Xiaoshi a piece of paper and said to her, "Now please write down the words I said carefully on the paper."

“I am a lovely, noble, caring person.

The world is my friends and lovers and will always meet my needs.

No matter where I go, someone will love me and like me.

I am very wise and capable, and I can realize my dreams.

…”

Xiaoshi carefully recorded--

"What you write now is a belief that can inspire your strength." Ning Youguang said, "It takes time to develop new habits. Therefore, when reconstructing your own thinking pattern, you must read the belief that can inspire your strength every day. If you have the conditions, read it in the morning, or read it before going to bed at night. You can also stick the notes of belief in your car, your mobile phone, and your bag, and deepen the link with them anytime and anywhere. The greater their role in helping you."

Xiao Shi nodded obediently and carefully put the paper into her bag.

"Teacher Ning, I will work hard to do what you told me... What if I fail in the end?"

"All groundbreaking activities follow a truth, and when you are thoroughly committed to doing something, you can change your destiny. The doors of the world will also be opened for you, and courage will bring talent, ability and magical adventures."

"What if I want to give up halfway through?"

"Then tell yourself, 'No, your mission is still completed, you have not completely escaped from the influence of the shadows.' If you still want to escape, you need to constantly ask yourself, what is my responsibility in this matter? Why did I let this happen to me?"

Looking at Xiao Shi's chess-up look.

Ning Youguang also said, "Since you are willing to enter my office, you must come with an urgent desire to change yourself. When people decide to do something, they will definitely overcome laziness and resistance, because the power of determination is stronger than the power of pursuing self-deception and self-ansthesia."

Xiaoshi cheered herself up, "I will work hard."

Ning Youguang smiled and said, "You can also help yourself strengthen your beliefs through some ways."

"What method?" Xiao Shi asked.

"What do you think is the most nourishing of your soul?" Ning Youguang asked back.

"Flowers, aromatherapy, travel, and having dinner at a restaurant with a good environment..." Xiaoshi carefully listed several items.

Ning Youguang said, "Then after you go back, you can often prepare a sumptuous meal for yourself, and when you get home from get off work, you can light a scented candle you like. If you like flowers, buy flowers for yourself, and play a soothing music for yourself. Or, dress up beautifully and watch a long-awaited movie, and go to a beautiful restaurant with a beautiful environment that you have been paying attention to for a long time to have afternoon tea or brunch."

"Yeah." A smile appeared on Xiaoshi's face, "I feel very happy when I think of this."

Ning Youguang also laughed, "Many times, you should carefully observe the people around you who seem to be very high-frequency and high-energy. In fact, they are not always so high-energy. They are just better at nourishing their souls than ordinary people."

Xiaoshi thought for a while and said, "What you mean is that I should learn to nourish my soul well in daily life, right?"

Ning Youguang nodded, "Yes, for example, if you make yourself in a good mood in the morning, your mood will be better in the day. Treat yourself like a precious guest, and you will become noble. The world will treat you the way you treat yourself; if you care, respect yourself, and affirm yourself, others will treat you the way you treat yourself. If you need other people's love and recognition, you must know how to love yourself first and affirm yourself first."

Xiao Shi felt thoughtful.

After a while, she asked, "Teacher Ning, is it because I don't know how to love myself, that I have never met someone who loves me very much since I was a child?"

Ning Youguang said, "This is precisely because of the defensive mechanism that our minds have innately. Once we deliberately suppress a certain trait, we will attract those who are more likely to show this trait, so that we can see our own image from them. From a psychological theory, if a person wants to get the love of others, he must first establish self-love. If he just disguises his appearance but does not pay attention to his heart, then the opposite sex he attracts will also be people who are used to disguising it."

"How should I identify the image of this projection and get rid of this vicious cycle?" Xiaoshi felt that this was a problem that has troubled her for a long time. "I want to get a healthy intimate relationship."

"The projection phenomenon on the self-level is very easy to identify. If we only 'feel' the existence of a certain person or something, then its smoothness will not bring us a projection. If we influence a certain person or something, then it is very likely to carry our projection. The shortcomings of others in our eyes are almost all projections of our own shortcomings in our hearts." Ning Youguang said, "As long as we acknowledge and accept certain negative traits in our hearts, the characteristics shown by others will not have an impact on us. Only in this way can we get along with others sincerely."

"You mean that all the qualities we can see in others exist in ourselves." Xiao Shi said, "I usually like to pick on others, but it is because I like to pick on myself?"

"Yes." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "Put your heart in mind and treat yourself as you treat others as you do. When you can forgive and accept yourself, you will naturally forgive and accept others. If you are willing to open your heart, be willing to look at yourself and accept yourself, you will fall in love with yourself and become calm and peaceful, and you can also share love with others. Once this virtuous cycle begins, your change will not only be your own life, but through you, you will soon find that your way of getting along with others has changed."

Xiao Shi had an irrepressible smile on her face, "So, if I want a healthy and intimate relationship, I need to guide my own behavior, neither deliberately suppress myself nor deliberately deny myself, so that I can turn my shortcomings into advantages, right?"

"Yes." Ning Youguang praised the poem, "You understand very well."

"Ah, I understand." Xiaoshi said in surprise, "Acknowledging and accepting imperfect self as you said in the book is a very important thing for a person to have a complete life."

"We must forgive our imperfections, because imperfection is originally a part of human nature. When we have a new understanding of the relationship between the inner world and the surrounding world, we can use this understanding to guide our lives. Rediscover the qualities that we can hide." Ning Youguang was very happy that Xiaoshi could understand his meaning well. "Once we expose the soap bubbles composed of false ideas in our brains, recognize the original appearance of the inner world, face the dark side of our hearts, and face all our shortcomings, we will realize the positive significance of these 'defects', and your life will undergo earth-shaking changes."

Xiao Shi became more and more excited as she listened, "I must learn to admit myself, accept myself, and be my friend. No matter how long this process takes!"

In short, she couldn't wait to see her future after her transformation.

Time for careful communication always passes very quickly.

On this day, Xiao Shi came to the University of Science and Technology of China in the morning and did not say goodbye to Ning Youguang until the sun sets.

noon.

Ning Youguang took her to have a meal at "Xiao Sixi" on the snack street outside the University of Science and Technology campus.

"Teacher Ning, thank you for your guidance and help today."

Standing at the door of Ning Youguang's office, Xiao Shi hugged Ning Youguang for the third time.

"You're welcome." Ning Youguang smiled gently, "The most important thing is to thank the brave Xiaosi."

Xiaoshi was amused by her words, "I want to thank myself."
To be continued...